How do you project confidence, even when you don’t feel it? In today’s video, I share some techniques for confidence building that I regularly use. If you apply these few things, you too can instill a confidence mindset.
ABC’s of Confidence Building.
We’re continually telling ourselves what we can and can’t do; so choosing what we listen to and when to listen to it is a great place to start a new conversation with yourself. How do we do that?
Here are a few ABC’s for Confidence Building. In this case, ABC stands for our first point…
1. Always Be Convinced (ABC)
If you don’t believe in yourself, or what you’re talking about, it’s going to be tough to convince someone else to ‘buy’ what you’re ‘selling.’ Whether you’re asking, promoting or presenting something, try visualizing the outcome you want so you can see how to get there. Instead of thinking in terms of black and white, positive and negative, convince yourself first.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Recognize that everyone has their own style and their voice, including you. Embrace yourself, your strengths and feature the best version of yourself. I guarantee you while you’re busy looking at others, others are looking at you and comparing themselves to you! Your individuality is what sets you apart – use it to your advantage.
3. Mistakes Happen – Roll With It
Mistakes serve a fundamental purpose and should be our number 1 confidence booster. Instead, we dwell on them for a long time, unable to move past them, making it a confidence killer. Here’s the thing: you just learned how NOT to do something. What NOT to say. Or maybe you suffered through a rejection. It’s a hard lesson, but mistakes build our confidence muscle. Over time, we toughen up, we let things roll off our back more easily, and we become less threatened by mistakes and see them for the opportunities they are. If you let them, mistakes can be your best ally.
4. Motivate – Don’t Procrastinate
There are a thousand reasons we give ourselves to avoid doing something. The problem is we fixate on why we shouldn’t be doing something instead of why we should. The best way to take on a new task, a new project is to start – even if you don’t complete it. Distractions and delays are a wasted resource. Concentrate on the benefits of taking action right now. Make the connection between how you’ll feel once you get something done and understand that it brings you closer to something bigger and better. Time is your most cherished asset; spending time on what matters most is feeds our confidence muscle.
5. Define Your Goals
There are two types of goals we can set for ourselves: there are task-oriented goals that focus on things we have to get done, and there are achievement-oriented goals that make us feel good. The first kind is centered around accomplishment – it’s a way to create forward momentum, focus, and direction. The second kind is centered around fulfillment, which means we’re taking on tasks and goals with the purpose of enhancing the way we feel daily. Define your goals in a way that makes sense for you so you can feel your best every day. As accomplishments and fulfillment thrive, so will the ability to project confidence – even on a bad day!
Have you struggled with confidence in the past and is this helpful to you in your own confidence building? I’d love to hear which tip has helped you the most.
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